Reverence is an attitude of deep respect, and love, for something sacred.
So, what do we deem as sacred in our own lives?
We should realize that our families are as sacred as Deity. That said, family life should be filled with love and deep respect for each member of our family.
As we look at today, we see the “me” generation. Our focus is usually on ourselves. This focus is misplaced if we have a family.
“My time,” was when you and I were single. We had lots of experiences and time to develop ourselves and enjoy our lives before we started a family. Hopefully, we have matured enough to realize our place as parents is to give each of our children opportunities to grow and develop and enjoy “their time.”
Are we willing to give our time to be with our children at those special times which we often fondly recall years later as having been pivotal?
Do we remember that our own spouse is the person that we, alone, have chosen? We have married and made commitments with vows to love and honour him/her.
Some of us may sometimes feel that being attached to another person is not convenient for us, especially when in the presence of someone else we feel may fill “my” needs better than our spouses.
“Fill my needs” is a telling attitude. It is a selfish one. We are in a family where we have vowed to fill “their” needs before our own. When we act selfishly, we often forget the needs of our spouses and children.
Family life can be hard. It stretches and strains us. It can be uncomfortable at times. Family life is full of challenges, problems, and sacrifices. While working through these challenges, parents learn to become unselfish, wise team players and able to strengthen their own family. These experiences naturally lead us to love our family members deeply.
We enjoy watching each of our children grow and mature. We enjoy becoming closer to our own spouse, enjoying the interplay and fun we have, and growing together by turning our challenges into stepping stones.
There is no handbook for being a wife or husband. Sometimes we do not know how to handle a problem.
“When in doubt, work it out.” (together)
Talk openly as husband and wife and communicate honestly. Husbands do not think like wives and wives do not think like husbands. This is good. Different perspectives are essential when tackling family problems. When there are deep love and caring between husband and wife, we can always find the right answers.
It is far better to do the hard right thing than the easy wrong thing. Reverencing our own family is the hard right thing.